The husband turned 40 in May and I was given a glimpse as to what 40 looks like.  It involves lots of birthday cards about being old, and lots of people saying welcome to the club and guffawing.  

I’ve been accepted to a few clubs in my lifetime.  My best friend and I started The Red Indian club when we were 8.  We had meetings in the shed at the bottom of my garden with a plate of biscuits and fancied ourselves in an Enid Blyton Novel.  Then there was the time when I was about 14 and I joined the Britannia Music club.  I got sent a CD every month which I then had to beg my Dad to pay for because I had forgotten to send back the free postage postcard saying ‘don’t send me this CD’.  There was lots of talk about a club when I had my first child.  Meetings seemed to take place in church halls and ball pits rather than sheds.  But there were always lots of biscuits.

I’m not really privy to the details of club 40 yet.  Do you have to pay a membership fee? Are there any exclusive benefits? Do you get a bonus if you refer a friend? From what I’ve seen of my husbands acceptance into club 40, is that is doesn’t seem very welcoming.  It’s talked about negatively with mentions of grey hairs and middle aged spread.



The common theme of turning 40 seemed to be that it’s all down here from here.  Insert more guffawing.  But I don’t get it.  Surly downhill is a good thing.  You’ve done the hard, sweaty thigh burning uphill bit.  Down hill sounds much more fun.  Especially if there’s a sledge involved.

Although I can’t avoid entrance to club 40 in January, watching my husband join the club made me want to run as fast as I could back to the entrance of club 30.

But it seems club 40 may be different for men and women.  As is much of life!  But club 40 seems to favour women.  Hooray!  Women I know that are already part of the club tell me that club 40 is all about confidence, finally accepting yourself and not caring what other people think.  I asked some women who were already in the club what they thought…


It’s weird as nothing really changes but you do get more of a ‘I don’t have to deal with your crap’ attitude! Country Heart and Home

I think when you’re in the 40’s club you become more content with the person you are and probably equally less tolerant of people around you. As you also get closer to the 50’s club you realise that you are sounding more like your own mother every day.  Over 40 and  Mum to one

Apart from my eyesight getting worse by the day and not being able to hear the high pitched sound that teenagers can hear outside our local cinema, it’s not too bad! Like others have said, you become less tolerant and distance yourself from high maintenance friends. I am also aware that time is not necessarily in my side so use that as an excuse to book more holidays.  A Strong Coffee To Go


My tolerance for nonsense really dropped and that isn’t a bad thing. I don’t waste time anymore, and I don’t listen to people projecting their views on me. I’m willing to take calculated risks as I’ve the experience to back it up and know that even if things don’t go as I’d wish, I’ll bounce back because I’ve done it before. I know I’m not perfect but I also know that’s okay and I embrace by own style and interests. Downside is that jeans don’t quite fit like they used to and some parts of my body are sitting a little lower!  Welsh Mum Writing

I am just glad that I made it! Apart from my eyesight getting worse, I still feel about 26! I care a lot less about what people think of me, and more about making the most of every day.  Your Money Sorted

A perk I enjoy is when people at work comment how old I am, I point out I didn’t have to pay university tuition fees! Dark Tea


I turned 40 in Feb, so far it’s been awesome! The love of my life and father to my kiddies proposed 3 days later in Central Park NYC in the snow.  We are getting married in less than 6 weeks time. 40s and fabulous!  Blissful Domestication

 I’m 41 now and it’s really made me look at ways I can improve. Like the gym and eating better. I have honestly had the best year as well. It’s not all bad on this side.  Champagne and Blush

I turned 40 in September and I’m so busy running around after little ones (baby number two was born in December) that I haven’t noticed much difference. I’m exhausted from having little ones, but I don’t feel like I’m 40. One thing that has changed though is I’m more sure of myself and who I am and less bothered what others think.  Home Family Life

They say that life really begins at 40. I am in my mid-40’s and I remember turning 40 I told myself that I will just enjoy my life to the fullest and not worry too much. I still work hard but I enjoy more. My children are bigger now and I am confident that they can handle themselves pretty well without me being around always. So yeah, I get to have my “me time” often.  My Parenting Journey

The older I get, the more I care even less about speaking my mind, for example, how when people say age is just a number, it’s such a lie.  Absolutely Prabulous


I’m hoping, that Club 40 will actually be pretty awesome.


39 Years Life Experience is a series about turning 40.  To celebrate and try and come to terms with the next milestone I will be sharing a post each month about the things that I have learnt, and the things that matter to me, and maybe a few of my more embarrassing experiences, from my 39 years life experience. You can read more posts from the series here:


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Claire Kirby

2 Comments on 39 Years Life Experience: Welcome to The Club

  1. Club 40 sounds pretty awesome to me – anything that involves caring less sounds good! I’ll be with you in a couple of year hun! Thanks for linking up to #coolmumclub lovely and have a sane-ish summer holiday and speedy recovery for your arm xx

  2. Love this “My tolerance for nonsense really dropped and that isn’t a bad thing. I don’t waste time anymore, and I don’t listen to people projecting their views on me”. As I near 40, I can totally agree. Life is way too short! #coolmumsclub

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