People say that romance is difficult after kids. I would actually argue that due to a significant drop in both standards and expectations, romance after the children come along, is actually easier.
Romance Before Kids – The pressure was on to be spontaneous. The element of surprise was key. Being whisked away for a surprise romantic weekend was the mother of all romantic gestures to pull off.
Romance After Kids – Life runs on a schedule. If it’s not on the calendar, it’s not happening. Valentines day being pre-printed on the calendar saves me time! Date nights are planned with military precision. The best spontaneous gesture is for my husband to say “shall we get take-out tonight”. You mean I don’t have to cook, and you are going to go out and get it? That right there is why I married you.
Romance Before Kids – Preparation meant shopping for a new dress and of course shoes to match. Getting my hair and nails done and generally spending a good few hours getting ready. You even had time to pen a love letter for him.
Romance After Kids – Preparation is booking the all important babysitters and cracking open the champagne because the grandparents are available, and have insisted on having them over night. Although the closest thing to a love letter is a text saying “Please pick up a bottle of nit shampoo”.
Romance Before Kids – Dinner at a fancy restaurant, where the only table available is at 9:15 and the portion sizes would leave the likes of Naomi Campbell hungry.
Romance After Kids – Snuggled on the sofa in your PJ’s with pizza and a bottle of wine. That is true love people.
Romance Before Kids – Having a bit of a smooch to a slow song at your cousins wedding.
Romance After Kids – Having a bit of a smooch to a slow song on the radio in the kitchen with a small person attached to each leg.
Romance Before Kids – A romantic bubble bath for two. Only one of you gets the tap end, and its far too hot so you are oozing sweat rather than sex appeal.
Romance After Kids – Who am I kidding I haven’t had time for a bath in six years, and being that I would have to share it with 10 plastic boats and a purple octopus, it’s kind of lost its attraction.
If you’re not convinced that life after children can be romantic check out these before kids and the after alternative…
I’ll take a cosy night on the sofa any day. Although if my husband is reading this, romantic getaways are also welcome too, just don’t surprise me. I need to pack for 4 nowadays.
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