A Guest Post by Jenn
The series all about the parenting fails and rookie mistakes that prove there really is no manual for this job.
This weeks Rookie Mistake is from Jenn who Is a contributor to Mommy Stroller. Jenn tells us some of the early mistakes she made first time around.
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Four Things No One Told Me About Motherhood That Led to Rookie Mistakes
Becoming a mother can be the greatest joy of your life. While it is exhausting, motherhood is also rewarding and beautiful. As amazing as motherhood can be, it is equally as frustrating and challenging. Motherhood demands your blood, sweat, and tears. Standing in the kitchen at 3 o’clock in the morning to heat up a bottle while your infant screams loud enough for the neighbourhood to hear can be very trying. No matter what baby books you read or what your friends tell you, nothing will prepare you for taking your baby for a jog in a double jogging stroller for the very first time, losing bladder control mid-jog, and having to do the walk of shame home.
There is a moment of clarity when you’re in the hospital with mesh panties on, a crying infant you’re trying to breastfeed in your arms, and you’re surviving on the twenty minutes of sleep you managed to get in the last two days. Suddenly, you realize that you really have no idea what you’re doing. The truth is neither does anyone else. Rest assured, it truly is on the job training with no class or book that can take place of being elbow deep in diapers and teething gel. Or maybe you’ve daydreamed about kayaking with kids, but the reality is far from a walk in a park. Even with the training, we all make mistakes. However, we learn from our mistakes and become better mothers because of them. It is important to learn from our mistakes and share our experiences with each other. Through sharing, we learn what not to do and what the best approach is. With that, I present to you, four things no one told me about motherhood that led to rookie mistakes.
1 Allowing Others to Dictate What I Do
Old pros are usually pretty good sources of information. However, they sometimes they give out poor advice. I had a relative badger me over extended rear facing. She was very upset that I would force my toddler to remain rear facing in a car seat. At the time, I gave in and turned the car seat around. I have since learned to remain confident in my decisions. Even if you feel clueless when it comes to parenting, be confident in your decisions.
2 Obsessing Over Trends
It can be easy to get caught up in current trends. A lot of the time, the pressure to compete with other mothers is high and you may feel inadequate if you don’t participate in the game. While you may have fed your first child organic, free-range, handmade, stardust-infused cereal, your third child will get their snack off the floorboard of the car. The first child brings along the competition. By the time you’re an old pro, you’ve realised that you don’t care about the competition anymore. Do what works for your family since every family is different.
3 Buy All The Things
When you first start out as a parent, you feel it necessary to clear out the shelves of the baby store and buy everything your baby could ever possibly need. By the time you’re a pro, you’ve realized that much of what is sold is not necessary for your family. Maybe your family would do better with a travel crib instead of a traditional crib. The hundreds of dollars of baby equipment for your first baby dwindles down to a pack of onesies and a turkey baster for your last baby. Keep it simple with equipment. You’ll thank yourself later when your toddler ignores the expensive new toy and instead plays with the box.
4 Creating Schedules
When my child was first born, I decided I would breastfeed her at 5 so I could eat dinner by 6. Guess what? She never ate at 5. Ever. The fact that babies are never quite what you want should be obvious. You might have envisioned a tropical water birth with dancing fairies and soothing music, but your birth erupted into a screaming bloody mess with curse words and an epidural. Whether you’re trying to wean off the pacifier or you’re camping with kids, go with the flow. Your goal is to keep your child alive, anything else is extra.
Be careful of the advice you receive as it’s not always right. Try to avoid the popular trends because they can make the competition exhausting. Be realistic about what a child needs otherwise you will end up with 76 newborn outfits and a single pair of pants for 0-3. Avoid making plans because life happens. Learn from your mistakes as well as other’s mistakes, but always be confident in your choices. Motherhood is stressful; however, it is also an incomparable life experience that will make you love more than you thought possible and somehow still function on 11 minutes of sleep.
Jenn is a blogger for Mommy Stroller, which focuses on helping parents figure out which stroller and baby gear they should get. The blog was started by Evelyn and her husband, Paul, who both decided to blog about baby gear after the overwhelming feeling they experienced when trying to pick out their first stroller. Both of them enjoy spending time with family and friend, live music, and going on jogs with their kids (in a stroller).
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