Let me start my saying I hate the term “Mummy Friends”.  It conjures up a stereotypical image of catty and judgemental women competing with each other through their children.

Definition of Mummy Friends – Friends you have met since becoming a Mummy who are also Mummy’s themselves.

I have Mummy Friends.  But they are intelligent, funny, brilliant women who offer support and alcohol.  Friends to laugh with and friends to cry with.

Personally I think this parenting gig is a whole lot tougher if you don’t have Mummy Friends. Whatever life stage you are at you tend to feel better when you have people you can turn to who get where you are coming from because they are in the same situation as you.

 

Here’s my top 10 reasons why you need Mummy Friends:

 

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One

They won’t bat an eyelid when you arrive at the school gates in yesterdays clothes with baby puke down the sleeve.

Chances are they have snot down their jeans.

Two

They don’t get bored and start rolling their eyes and stifling yawns when you talk about your kids.  You can even tell them about poo and vom and they won’t get grossed out.

Three

Forgotten the baby wipes?  Got a baby with a giant green slug hanging out of their nose and no tissue?  Run out of raisins and the toddler is about to launch operation meltdown? Mummy Friend to the rescue.

Four

They don’t look at you all disapproving when your small person is shoving cheerios up their nostrils.  They can’t because last week you were witness to their small person streaking in the park.

Five

Your social life involves parties that finish at 4:pm.  The party guests don’t need to be plied with anything to start dancing, and the height of fashion is an Elsa dress. Mummy friends will be at the same parties shoving their faces full of chicken nuggets and wotsits too.

Six

They look after your small people for you whilst you visit the doctors for awkward procedures and to discuss your lady bits.  if it wasn’t for your Mummy Friends every checkout lady in Sainsbury’s would know that “Mummy had to do a wee wee in a tube at the doctors”.

Seven

You can ask them random questions like “Is it normal that my small person can’t dance without smacking his own butt repeatedly and changing random lyrics to ‘poo poo head’?” They are like google.  Only without all the gross images.

Eight

You can have a girls night out with Mummy Friends and not be the only one who is

a) Wearing flats

b) Has no idea what music you are dancing too

c) Plans to be at home in bed by 11:00pm

Nine

You can give them the full unabridged birth story (including the stitches) without worrying about ‘over sharing’.

Ten

When it’s been a day full of tears and tantrums, (and not just the small people) Mummy Friends understand, and they always have cake.  The really good ones always have wine.

 

I have some very special Mummy Friends in my life, who actually I wish I had known before I had small people.

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This post is for Ellie, Denise and Kim.  The best Mummies to drink with, be it tea or wine, and the ones who always scupper my plans to be at home in bed by 11:00pm 😉

 

Mummy Friends also mean small people play dates

 

Share this post with the Mummy Friends who know your birth story as well as they know their own 🙂 

 
 

 

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Claire Kirby

52 Comments on Mummy Friends: 10 Reasons You Need Them

  1. This is such a fabulous post! I totally agree with you on all except the be home by 11 bit. I don’t think any of my friends and I can stay awake past 9pm! LOL Thank you for linking up with #abitofeverything

  2. Aw this post is sweet, and also has made me think that I need more Mum friends haha, currently 9 months pregnant (every day is getting slower before his arrival! : ) ) and I’m the first in my friend group to have a child, whoops! Love the photo of the three boys, adorable! #fartglitter

  3. I love this post! I miss my mummy friends..I recently moved and now all the people who know all about my birth story and went through all the baby days with me are miles away. We keep in touch but it is not the same, I now need to meet some new mums who can rescues me with their wet wipe, snack and wine supplies! Looks like you have a lovely bunch of mum friends 🙂 xx #abitofeverything

  4. I would be lost without my mummy friends – they are the best and are always on hand for tips or advice. I wish I’d met my mummy friends before having my little lady. Loved this post xxx

  5. So true, and so funny. Naive, pre motherhood me thought that I wouldn’t need ‘Mummy friends’ as my other friends would be just fine thank you very much.

    How. Wrong. Was. I. ?

    I would be so lost without my friends – who all think that a great time is getting slightly tipsy at a 3 year olds party, eating cake for dinner then being in bed for 8pm. So long as we stick together we can function in our own normality, which to the child free world is just plain weird.

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  6. Having a baby has been an amazing way to meet new people.
    As an expat living halfway around the world, the usual friend and family network at home is not there so it’s really important to have some good mum mates to share the joy and tears with. Great post.
    #fridayfrolics

  7. How funny is this. Was about to tweet you to invite you to take part in #wineandboobs and I see…you already did. Thought I recognised the image and post title! Fab blog. Fab post. And hell yeah to number 4.

  8. Love this and so true I couldn’t have survived without mommy friends especially in the beginning as a new parent. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me I hope you are enjoying my blog hop and thanks for all the linky support! #sharewithme

  9. So funny and so true! Mummy Friends have become some of the best I know. Yes, we plan to get in to bed at 11pm at the latest on a night out, but we certainly can still drink our fair share of wine :).

    #FridayFrolics

  10. Such a lovely post. I’m a first time mum to a now 4 week old and don’t currently have any mummy friends, it didn’t help that we didn’t get to go to any antenatal classes. I have found out when the different groups are at our local children’s centre but I’m a bit apprehensive to go. I get quite shy in new situations with new people. #thelist

    • I’m shy too, but it’s really worth putting yourself out there. There will be some people that you don’t click with, but you could also meet some amazing people that will become your best friends. They ran a first time mums group in my area. Check with your health visitor. xxx

  11. Fab post – and all so true! I love it when we go out and everyone starts yawning around 10pm, means I don;t feel bad for heading home early. And ditto to the cake.

  12. Hi, saw your link over on twinkly Tuesday. The support you get from Mummy friends is invaluable and Mummy nights out are definitely a great way of getting out with people who understand the 7 am wake up call the next day. Great post!
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