Online dating has become the norm in today’s world, but a lot of people are still wary of it. One popular excuse is the fact that so many people misrepresent themselves online. Although this is a problem, face-to-face dating can also bring you into contact with all sorts of liars. Thus, there is no good excuse to avoid trying out this new form of matching. With that in mind, let’s go over the essential information that you need to know before you attempt dating through chatrooms.
Finding The Right Place
In general, you are more likely to find a good partner if you seek out someone with whom you have a lot in common. This is an old adage, but it still rings true. Of course, finding a carbon copy of yourself is not realistic or desirable, but you need to have some common ground to avoid a combative relationship.
That’s why it’s so important to find the right dating sites or chatrooms. Each one has a specific type of crowd that it attracts, and you need to make sure that it’s your type of crowd. It would be useless for us to start listing various websites and telling you what sorts of people are most prominent in those places. These things can change on a pretty regular basis, and they are only general trends anyway. Instead, be prepared to try a few different places before you settle on just one.
Exercising Proper Safety
As we said, there is a real problem with people misrepresenting themselves on dating sites. In most cases, these people are merely deceptive, but sometimes they can be outright sinister. Because there are all sorts of scam artists and sexual predators who use the internet to find victims, you need to exercise some basic safety precautions.
First of all, use a VPN to encrypt your connection to the internet. This will make it much harder for someone to find your physical location or IP address. Without this, a skilled person can obtain that information with ease. You should also use a browser add-on called “HTTPS Everywhere” for the same reasons.
Secondly, you need to make sure you don’t give out personal information to anyone that you don’t know very well. That means taking a little more time to establish trust with someone. Anyone who asks for personal information right away should be blocked, especially if that information is financial in nature.
Video Chat Is Your Friend
So, let’s say you have met someone in this online dating chatroom. Let’s say that you are hitting it off beautifully and everything seems fine. They seem like a very nice and attractive person on every level, but you want to make sure that they really are the person you think they are. What do you do? Well, video chat is a good place to go next.
This will allow you to get a good look at the other person. You can hear their voice, see their appearance, etc, and that is a lot harder to fake than a line of text. Anyone can type out a lie, but a visual deception would have to be a lot more elaborate and would probably be detected on close inspection. Obviously, distorted images and mechanical-sounding voices are a red flag.
Skip The Small Talk
A lot of people don’t know how to talk to a prospective mate, and this can be very comical to watch. However, it isn’t so funny when you’re the one with the problem. Men and women will often take different approaches to this matter, but one thing that is universal: You shouldn’t waste people’s time with meaningless small talk.
When you are on a dating site, no one wants to be asked about the weather or how their mother is doing. These are things you say to strangers in casual conversation, not things you say when trying to initiate a relationship. The fact that they are on a dating site in the first place tells you what they want, so get right to the point.
Don’t Take Rejection Personally
Online dating is a little easier on your nerves than in-person dating, but not in all ways. People tend to be brutally honest over the internet, even if they would be a lot more diplomatic in person. Thus, if they find you unattractive, they will probably say so plainly. More likely, however, they will just ghost on you.
You shouldn’t take these things personally, because it’s just the nature of online dating. You are basically putting your hook into a sea of possibilities, and you cannot expect every fish to bite. Remember this: It’s not about whether you “deserve” someone or not. It’s about how well you match with another person.
Be An Investigator
As a final word of advice, we would tell you to check out any potential mate that you meet dating through chatrooms. Look at their profile and try to see if there are any inconsistencies. You can also look at various social media profiles (if available), which are easy to find if you know a full name and a general location. It might make you feel like a stalker, but you have every right to know who you are dating.
We hope that you have enjoyed this article, and we hope that you have found its advice to be helpful. Dating chatrooms really aren’t that hard to use, so don’t hesitate to dive right in and learn. Follow these rules, and you will have a great head start…the rest can be learned as you go.
This is a contributed post.
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