keeping the spark alive

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Have you begun to feel like you are dating your spouse? Has your relationship become so routine that it hardly feels romantic anymore? Luckily for you, there are ways to remedy the situation and reignite the spark. Here are a few ideas for you and your loved one to practice to keep the spark alive after many, many (MANY) years of love. 

One great way to bring you and your hunny closer is to implement a date night every week. This is one night a week to get away from nagging kids, stresses of everyday life, and chores and take some time to reconnect with one another. This is a night that you can go out and do something together that does not involve being a responsible adult. Alternatively, you could stay home and create an evening of romance without having to get out of your sweatpants and t-shirt. Date nights are important because they give you time together to talk and work through some grievances you may be having. 

You should also consider taking at least three to four “getaways” a year. This does not always mean that the two of you should book a flight to Cancun multiple times a year, but getting away is great for that spark. You could simply check into a local hotel for the weekend, or even ship the kids to grandma’s house and enjoy a nice staycation. Buy some nice wine, chocolate and some cheap lingerie at Ann Summers to show your loved one that you can still surprise them years down the road. Either way, you need adult time together away from everything else if you want a relationship to stay exciting and interesting. 

If you have children that are simply too young for you to take this much personal time, date moments are a great way to fit in some quality time. Date moments are usually a standard part of your normal routine, so you don’t even need to go out of your way. These are just small quips of spending time together throughout the day. Date moments can help keep relationships alive and healthy. Here are some date moments that you probably already do, and if you don’t, you can start now.

  • A kiss goodbye and a welcome kiss when you come home
  • Slow dancing in the kitchen to your favorite songs
  • Some alone time on the patio when the kids go to bed
  • Checking in throughout the day to see how things are going and let them know that you miss them. 
  • A bubble bath
  • Drinking together (be that coffee or booze)
  • Talking after the kids go to bed without the TV on
  • Walking around the block together
  • Write a note to each other and sneak them throughout the day
  • Sexy time when the kids go to bed

No matter what you choose to do, it is important to keep the romance alive in your relationship, especially if you have been together for awhile. Next time you are feeling bummed about your current state, try some of these suggestions to get the love fire burning again!

This is a contributed post




Claire Kirby

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