After my wobble at turning 40 and quite frankly dreading it, now that I’m here, it’s not so bad. A milestone birthday can make you reflect and take stock of things, and I have been doing a lot of thinking.
The husband is concerned because when I do a lot of thinking, it normally involves remodelling the house, or convincing him to get a cat! But actually my thinking has been very self centred. I’ve been thinking a lot about me and the blog.
I started this blog four and a half years ago now. It’s my third baby! Something that I love that has become my job and a way to make an income flexibly around family life.
When I started I had no clue about blogging and all that it entails. Whilst I love it, it is also hard work. Pitching to companies, trying to prove why you are worthy of a job over someone else. Constantly trying to win the battle against social media algorithms so your posts get seen. And always being grateful for the likes shares and comments, because engagement is the key.
There is a lot of advice about how to blog. And I mean a lot! Some of it great, and there are some fantastic bloggers out there who have helped me. But I am a very firm believer that a one size fits all approach is rarely true for anything in life.
I have always struggled with niche and feeling like I don’t have one. Some people told me it was the humorous posts that I wrote. But whilst I do love writing those, we can’t be funny all of the time. And actually some of my more soppy, heart felt posts have had some of the best responses.
So I’ve decided to ignore the niche thing, and as it’s my blog I am going to make my own rules! Which is basically that I will write about whatever I want. I want to do some more lifestyle posts. Thing’s I’ve bought, things I’ve watched. And I plan on writing some more personal posts. Because as much as it is scary and hard to do, whenever I have in the past, the support you have all shown me is amazing.
The blog will be about parenting, and about me. But what it will always be is honest. There will still be humour, and lots of it. I don’t tend to write advice posts because I don’t really feel qualified to. Plus like I said, one size doesn’t fit all. What works for my kids may not work for yours. So if you expect this blog to give you tips on how to get your kid to eat their vegetables, then I’m afraid you will be disappointed. Any advice I give will be firmly tongue in cheek.
My new found wisdom of turning 40 is that I need to rewire my brain! Because for the last 40 years I have been telling myself that I am not good enough. That I look horrible. That I am not worthy.
But it finally dawned on me that I can’t change the way I think either over night or without help. So I’ve been reading some amazing books and doing a lot of mindfulness (which before now I kind of thought was a sales gimmick).
I plan to tell you more about this at a later date, because it’s too much for one post! But I did want to share with you a seven day positivity course I did with Cuddle Fairy.
Now when I say seven days, it’s basically five minutes of your day to read through the course material for that day, every day for a week. Then you go about your day, with the material in the back of your mind.
I was quite sceptical about the course, in the sense that can you really see a difference that quickly. As I write this I am on day seven and I have to say I do feel so much more positive than I did before I did the course. I feel I now have some tools to help me work on changing my mindset and using the positivity to be kinder to myself and help when life can get overwhelming.
I’m not giving much away about the course, but I really think it is worth doing. You are not bombarded with emails. You can do the course at your own pace, and best of all it is completely free.
Becky who blogs a Cuddle Fairy is a friend of mine, which is how I found out about the online courses she was launching. After giving this one a go I plan to do more. You can find out more at Cuddle Fairy.
That’s my little life update. Now I need to go and sort out Little’s bedroom and get rid of a load of toys to make room for the new ones he is getting for his birthday. It’s a rock n roll life!
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