The definitions of being a mother…

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Being a mother is love like you have never known.  It’s feeling someone else’s pain as your own.  It’s a primeval instinct to protect.

Being a mother is knowing every park in a 5 mile radius of your home and which shops have toilet facilities.

Being a mother is snuggles on the sofa watching Disney movies.

Being a mother is a state of constant change.  It’s getting into a routine and by the time you have adjusted the routine changes again.

Being a mother is becoming very well acquainted with stain removal products.

Being a mother is a complete juxtaposition of feelings.  It’s longing for the baby to take a nap, and missing them as soon as they do.

Being a mother is knowing that if cloning yourself became available on the NHS you would be the first inline.

Being a mother is finding a new you, through the advise, the judgement and the criticism, and learning to be confident in the decisions you make.

Being a mother is a lesson in never being smug.  One day your child might recite the alphabet beautifully to an admiring audience.  The next they will be throwing food around the supermarket and having a very public meltdown where the audience will not be so impressed.

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Being a mother is googling what chicken pox looks like.  And wishing you hadn’t.

Being a mother is exhaustion like you’ve never known, but discovering when you think you have nothing left to give, you do.

Being a mother is always finding raisins in the bottom of your handbag.

Being a mother is pride and celebration in milestones and achievements big and small.  It’s cheering out loud and dancing when a small person does a wee wee on a potty.  It’s crying in the park because Daddy let go of the saddle and they rode their bike by themselves.

Being a mother is late night discussions with the husband on are we making the right decisions.

Being a mother is knowing someone else better than you know yourself.

Being a mother is accepting you can’t be perfect.  There are days when you wake up and your bucket of patience hasn’t fully replenished over night, and there’s no where near enough to get you through the day.  You shout more than you should, you don’t listen enough, but you get through it.

Being a mother is never finding the bottom of the laundry basket.

Being a mother is learning from your mistakes.  Like leaving the house without a change-bag the day your baby projectile vomits all over you and you have to drive home in your bra.

Being a mother is dancing round the kitchen and having impromptu discos wearing cow-boy hats.

Being a mother is never having any privacy in your life again. ever.  Whether they are barging in on you shaving your bikini line, or telling the neighbours exactly what you said to Daddy about them.

Being a mother is feeling heartbreak when the small people are poorly.  But having the greatest privilege in the world of being the one who can make things better.  Poorly cuddles are precious things.

Being a mother is picnics in the garden on sunny days.

Being a mother is owning lots of Ikea storage solutions and always having a pile of stuff to take to the charity shop.

Being a mother is having a To-Do list that never gets completed.

Being a mother is approaching trampolines with extreme caution.  No matter how many bloody pelvic floor exercises you did.

Being a mother is singing nursery rhymes in public places to stop your baby from crying. It’s like karaoke with crap songs and no alcohol.

Being a mother is marveling at how big and grown up they have gotten and wondering how the hell it happened so fast.

Being a mother is peaking in on them sleeping soundly in their beds and realising just how small they still are.

Being a mother is knowing that if you are giving one child your full attention, the other child is probably doing something they shouldn’t.

Being a mother is experiencing pain like no other when you step on Lego. Barefoot.

Being a mother is never being able to watch anything on TV remotely sad without being a blubbering wreck.

Being a mother is thinking nothing of wiping snot from your child’s face with your hands.

Being a mother is knowing you’ve really earned that glass of wine.

Being a mother is rediscovering the joy of colouring in, and trying really hard not to get annoyed with the small people when they go over the lines or colour the sand in green.

Being a mother is falling asleep as soon as your head hits the pillow.

Being a mother is guilt over everything.  It’s constantly questioning if you are doing the right thing and a constant battle to get them to eat vegetables.

Being a mother is knowing the exact tickle spot to get the best giggles.

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Being a mother is knowing every presenter on Cbeebies and whether they have kids or not because you’ve googled them whilst watching the same episode of Charlie and Lola for the 50th time.

Being a mother is feeling pride so overwhelming you feel you might actually burst.

Being a mother is falling in love all over again with your husband when you see him as a father.

Being a mother is having to eat chocolate in secret.  Unless you want to share it.

Being a mother is being projectile vomited on and not batting an eyelid.

On good days being a mother it’s full of smiles and laughter and cuddles, on bad days it’s full of tears and tantrums from both the small people and me.  On normal days it’s busy, loud and always unpredictable.

Being a mother is life changing.  It is the best thing I have ever done.  My greatest achievement my most rewarding job ever.

It is all these things and so many in between.

Motherhood is bigger than me.  It’s bigger than all of us.  But it’s a wonderful thing that so many of us share in.

Ultimately, it’s all about them.  The small people that fill my heart with love, turn my hair grey and drive me a little bit crazy.  My world wouldn’t be the same without my two beautiful noisy boys.





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This post first appeared as a guest post on Motherhood The Real Deal as part of the #beingamother project.  I was very honered that Talya asked me to take part.  Check out her brilliantly funny blog and all of the other wonderful posts in the #beingamother project. Thanks Talya. x


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40 Comments on Being a Mother

  1. Jenny
    March 9, 2016 at 2:14 pm (8 months ago)

    Ahh so lovely and so true I love this babes. You can see your love and passion in your writing so beautifully written. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me. Sorry to be late commenting we have my mother visiting from America. 🙂 Thanks for joining in. #sharewithme
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  2. Honest Mum
    March 7, 2016 at 9:11 pm (8 months ago)

    Beautiful, wise post x

  3. Annabelle Spender
    March 6, 2016 at 4:37 pm (8 months ago)

    Wow what a beautiful post! Thanks for sharing this! Halfway through my first pregnancy and it is nice to hear what it really means to be a mum.
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  4. Emma
    March 3, 2016 at 11:23 am (8 months ago)

    I love this post – they are all so true, though some I haven’t had the privilege of experiencing yet! Since becoming a mum I can’t watch anything sad on TV at all! I watched Dumbo a couple of weeks back and turned into a blubbering wreck! Thanks for sharing. #BrilliantBlogPosts
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  5. Ruth Maisey
    March 2, 2016 at 9:33 am (8 months ago)

    Ah this is such a beautiful post! I can identify with pretty much all of these. The longing for them to have a nap, and missing them the minute they do. I am going to print this out and keep it for reference, when times are hard, you know everyone is the same. Awesome read!

  6. Suzanne
    March 2, 2016 at 9:14 am (8 months ago)

    Gorgeous photographs and lovely words too. I agree with all of these but especially late night chats with the husband about ‘are we doing the right thing?’. Doing more of that than ever now the teenage years have hit!
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  7. Coombe Mill - Fiona
    March 2, 2016 at 9:08 am (8 months ago)

    some classic moments here i can really relate too, I love the bursting with pride one, that is the best of being a mother for me #ShareWithMe

  8. Mrs Tubbs
    March 1, 2016 at 12:57 pm (8 months ago)

    That’s lovely and oh so true. A piece of dust appears to have lodged in my eyeball …

  9. MMT
    February 29, 2016 at 9:58 pm (8 months ago)

    I’m definitely appreciating the sleep before head hits pillow bit right now! Time for bed….motherhood is not knowing what the night might bring ;-

    Gorgeous summary of motherhood xxx
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  10. Ellen
    February 29, 2016 at 11:03 am (8 months ago)

    Love this! That picture of your hands is gorgeous. #MarvMondays

  11. Coombe Mill - Fiona
    February 29, 2016 at 10:03 am (8 months ago)

    Makes you wonder how we manage it all reading this! #marvmonday

  12. Rhyming with wine
    February 29, 2016 at 9:23 am (8 months ago)

    “Being a mother is exhaustion like you’ve never known, but discovering when you think you have nothing left to give, you do”. – Just this! Perfect! Oh yes, and the raisins… always the sodding raisins! ;0)

    Fantastic post x

  13. Kim (sisterkin)
    November 16, 2015 at 2:32 pm (12 months ago)

    Such lovely words – motherhood is one hell of a ride amd you summed it up beautifully. #fartglitter

  14. Laura
    November 16, 2015 at 8:18 am (12 months ago)

    This is beautiful and so true, the one about constant change really resonated with me. I try to just go with the flow these days because routine is almost uncontrollable. Thanks for sharing.


  15. Absolutely Prabulous
    September 13, 2015 at 8:40 pm (1 year ago)

    Oh God I’ve been asked to do one for this project too but after reading yours, I just don’t think I can do it justice. I honestly loved this (surprise surprise). #BloggingMumsClub
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    • Life Love and Dirty Dishes
      September 14, 2015 at 12:39 pm (1 year ago)

      I know you can do funny and from the heart so you will totally rock it. Look forward to reading it.

  16. Lisa (mummascribbles)
    June 25, 2015 at 9:01 pm (1 year ago)

    This is so lovely – you’ve captured everything that is so wonderful about motherhood. Gorgeous post – Thanks so much for linking up with #TwinklyTuesday
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    • Claire
      June 30, 2015 at 10:41 am (1 year ago)

      Thanks Lisa x

  17. Kirsty
    June 23, 2015 at 9:25 pm (1 year ago)

    Brilliant as always Claire
    There is way more to come too:
    Being a mother is crying your eyes out at your youngest child’s graduation and making the teacher cry when you thank her for always having something positive to say at parent’s evening.

  18. Honest mum
    June 23, 2015 at 4:10 pm (1 year ago)

    Just beautiful, warned my cockles and brought a tear to my eye. Honoured to have you link up, thank you x
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    • Claire
      June 23, 2015 at 6:36 pm (1 year ago)

      Thanks 🙂 Seems to have struck a cord this one. x

  19. Charlene
    June 21, 2015 at 8:30 pm (1 year ago)

    Aww this is beautiful. Something floated in me eye when I read the part about seeing your husband as a father.

    • Claire
      June 30, 2015 at 10:43 am (1 year ago)

      Thanks x


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