Let me start my saying I hate the term “Mummy Friends”.  It conjures up a stereotypical image of catty and judgmental women competing with each other through their children.

Definition of Mummy Friends – Friends you have met since becoming a Mummy who are also Mummy’s themselves.

I have Mummy Friends.  But they are intelligent, funny, brilliant women who offer support and alcohol.  Friends to laugh with and friends to cry with.

Personally I think this parenting gig is a whole lot tougher if you don’t have Mummy Friends. Whatever life stage you are at you tend to feel better when you have people you can turn to who get where you are coming from because they are in the same situation as you.


Here’s my top 10 reasons why you need Mummy Friends:

Why You Need Mummy Friends



They won’t bat an eyelid when you arrive at the school gates in yesterdays clothes with baby puke down the sleeve.

Chances are they have snot down their jeans.



They don’t get bored and start rolling their eyes and stifling yawns when you talk about your kids.  You can even tell them about poo and vom and they won’t get grossed out.



Forgotten the baby wipes?  Got a baby with a giant green slug hanging out of their nose and no tissue?  Run out of raisins and the toddler is about to launch operation meltdown? Mummy Friend to the rescue.



They don’t look at you all disapproving when your small person is shoving cheerios up their nostrils.  They can’t because last week you were witness to their small person streaking in the park.



Your social life involves parties that finish at 4:pm.  The party guests don’t need to be plied with anything to start dancing, and the height of fashion is an Elsa dress. Mummy friends will be at the same parties shoving their faces full of chicken nuggets and wotsits too.



They look after your small people for you whilst you visit the doctors for awkward procedures and to discuss your lady bits.  if it wasn’t for your Mummy Friends every checkout lady in Sainsbury’s would know that “Mummy had to do a wee wee in a tube at the doctors”.



You can ask them random questions like “Is it normal that my small person can’t dance without smacking his own butt repeatedly and changing random lyrics to ‘poo poo head’?” They are like google.  Only without all the gross images.



You can have a girls night out with Mummy Friends and not be the only one who is

a) Wearing flats

b) Has no idea what music you are dancing too

c) Plans to be at home in bed by 11:00pm



You can give them the full unabridged birth story (including the stitches) without worrying about ‘over sharing’.



When it’s been a day full of tears and tantrums, (and not just the small people) Mummy Friends understand, and they always have cake.  The really good ones always have wine.


I have some very special Mummy Friends in my life, who actually I wish I had known before I had small people.

Mummy Friends

This post is for Ellie, Denise and Kim.  The best Mummies to drink with, be it tea or wine, and the ones who always scupper my plans to be at home in bed by 11:00pm πŸ˜‰


Future Boy Band

Mummy Friends also mean small people play dates


Share this post with the Mummy Friends who know your birth story as well as they know their own πŸ™‚ 

 This post was featured on Huffpost and Netmums

If you liked this post please share.  For all the latest posts subscribe to my weekly newsletter below or follow me on my social networks.  



Facebook @lifeloveanddd Instagram Pinterest Bloglovin Image HTML map generator


Popular Posts:

Where do babies come from


52 Comments on Mummy Friends: 10 Reasons You Need Them

  1. Anita Cleare
    November 26, 2015 at 4:39 pm (11 months ago)

    What a lovely post! To be honest, I don’t have that many friends left who aren’t parents for all the reasons you have listed! We are the #coolmumclub !

  2. El
    November 26, 2015 at 11:24 am (11 months ago)

    This is such a fabulous post! I totally agree with you on all except the be home by 11 bit. I don’t think any of my friends and I can stay awake past 9pm! LOL Thank you for linking up with #abitofeverything
    El recently posted…A bit of Everything Linky Week 7My Profile

  3. Meagan
    November 26, 2015 at 11:23 am (11 months ago)

    Aw this post is sweet, and also has made me think that I need more Mum friends haha, currently 9 months pregnant (every day is getting slower before his arrival! : ) ) and I’m the first in my friend group to have a child, whoops! Love the photo of the three boys, adorable! #fartglitter

  4. thismummylark
    November 26, 2015 at 9:29 am (11 months ago)

    This post sums it up perfectly! πŸ™‚ i fear for anyones sanity that doesnt have mummy friends. Were blessed to have them.
    thismummylark recently posted…Baby Book for Single ParentsMy Profile

  5. absolutely prabulous
    November 25, 2015 at 7:49 pm (11 months ago)

    Awww I had to come back and comment because is this…drumroll…trumpet fanfare…the FIRST post of yours I ever read! Still love it. #abitofeverything

  6. wendy
    November 24, 2015 at 6:47 pm (11 months ago)

    I love this post! I miss my mummy friends..I recently moved and now all the people who know all about my birth story and went through all the baby days with me are miles away. We keep in touch but it is not the same, I now need to meet some new mums who can rescues me with their wet wipe, snack and wine supplies! Looks like you have a lovely bunch of mum friends πŸ™‚ xx #abitofeverything
    wendy recently posted…Christmas treat mason jarsMy Profile

  7. Mama, My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows
    November 23, 2015 at 8:49 am (11 months ago)

    Love this and totally agree. Sometimes mummy friends are the only thing which helps me cling on to my sanity with my finger tips. Mummy friends and blogger friends- I’d be lost without both πŸ™‚
    Thanks for linking up to #fartglitter x

  8. Rhyming with wine
    November 23, 2015 at 7:03 am (11 months ago)

    Love love love this. Number 4 in particular got me giggling! Just brilliant and so very true. #fartglitter x

  9. Mimiroseandme
    September 21, 2015 at 9:28 pm (1 year ago)

    I would be lost without my mummy friends – they are the best and are always on hand for tips or advice. I wish I’d met my mummy friends before having my little lady. Loved this post xxx
    Mimiroseandme recently posted…TBT | NEWBORN PHOTO SHOOTSMy Profile

  10. cat
    June 26, 2015 at 2:26 pm (1 year ago)

    So true, and so funny. Naive, pre motherhood me thought that I wouldn’t need ‘Mummy friends’ as my other friends would be just fine thank you very much.

    How. Wrong. Was. I. ?

    I would be so lost without my friends – who all think that a great time is getting slightly tipsy at a 3 year olds party, eating cake for dinner then being in bed for 8pm. So long as we stick together we can function in our own normality, which to the child free world is just plain weird.

    cat recently posted…Normal AbnormalMy Profile

    • Claire
      June 30, 2015 at 10:41 am (1 year ago)

      I just wish I had known some of my mummy friends in my life before kids. I feel there may have been a lot more wild nights!

  11. Mum's Hideout
    June 12, 2015 at 6:39 am (1 year ago)

    Having a baby has been an amazing way to meet new people.
    As an expat living halfway around the world, the usual friend and family network at home is not there so it’s really important to have some good mum mates to share the joy and tears with. Great post.
    Mum’s Hideout recently posted…Always Rinse the Weetabix BowlMy Profile

    • Claire
      June 17, 2015 at 12:47 pm (1 year ago)

      Definitely. Couldn’t be without mine πŸ˜‰

  12. Absolutely Prabulous
    June 10, 2015 at 3:39 pm (1 year ago)

    How funny is this. Was about to tweet you to invite you to take part in #wineandboobs and I see…you already did. Thought I recognised the image and post title! Fab blog. Fab post. And hell yeah to number 4.

    • Claire
      June 11, 2015 at 8:02 pm (1 year ago)

      Thank-you so much πŸ™‚

  13. Jenny
    May 31, 2015 at 9:28 am (1 year ago)

    Love this and so true I couldn’t have survived without mommy friends especially in the beginning as a new parent. Thanks for linking up to Share With Me I hope you are enjoying my blog hop and thanks for all the linky support! #sharewithme
    Jenny recently posted…Me & Mine {May}My Profile

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:26 pm (1 year ago)

      Thanks for hosting πŸ™‚

  14. Kelly
    May 29, 2015 at 10:19 pm (1 year ago)

    So funny and so true! Mummy Friends have become some of the best I know. Yes, we plan to get in to bed at 11pm at the latest on a night out, but we certainly can still drink our fair share of wine :).

    Kelly recently posted…THE NIGHT TIME RITUALMy Profile

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:32 pm (1 year ago)

      Al hail the rose!

  15. Domesticated Momster
    May 29, 2015 at 7:46 pm (1 year ago)

    I need more mommy friends. Since moving to a small town and leaving behind everything and everyone I knew I have had a hard time building new relationships. Thanks for hosting #FridayFrolics
    Domesticated Momster recently posted…Just Get Over It!My Profile

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:36 pm (1 year ago)

      It’s hard as a grown up isn’t it. Hope you find some more soon xxx

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:36 pm (1 year ago)

      Couldn’t agree more πŸ™‚

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:37 pm (1 year ago)

      Keeps me sane πŸ™‚

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:38 pm (1 year ago)


  16. Stacey
    May 29, 2015 at 12:44 pm (1 year ago)

    Such a lovely post. I’m a first time mum to a now 4 week old and don’t currently have any mummy friends, it didn’t help that we didn’t get to go to any antenatal classes. I have found out when the different groups are at our local children’s centre but I’m a bit apprehensive to go. I get quite shy in new situations with new people. #thelist
    Stacey recently posted…7 things we forgot to thank our best friend forMy Profile

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:42 pm (1 year ago)

      I’m shy too, but it’s really worth putting yourself out there. There will be some people that you don’t click with, but you could also meet some amazing people that will become your best friends. They ran a first time mums group in my area. Check with your health visitor. xxx

  17. Talya
    May 29, 2015 at 12:21 pm (1 year ago)

    So true – we definitely all need them for these reasons! #FridayFrolics

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:45 pm (1 year ago)

      They are such a bad influence πŸ˜‰

  18. Mummy Fever
    May 29, 2015 at 8:44 am (1 year ago)

    So true ! What I like is that you don’t have to give them a full back story on something, changes are they’ve had a similar battle #FridayFrolics
    Mummy Fever recently posted…The perfect new baby giftMy Profile

  19. Mama, My Kid Doesn't Poop Rainbows
    May 29, 2015 at 6:19 am (1 year ago)

    Yes! To all!
    Seriously where would I be without my better-than-google, pass-the-cocktail, listen-to-this-poop-story mummy (and daddy) friends.

    Mama, My Kid Doesn’t Poop Rainbows recently posted…The Magic of Shark WeekMy Profile

  20. Kate
    May 29, 2015 at 6:14 am (1 year ago)

    Fab post – and all so true! I love it when we go out and everyone starts yawning around 10pm, means I don;t feel bad for heading home early. And ditto to the cake.
    Kate recently posted…Running wild at BeWILDerwoodMy Profile

  21. Laura's Lovely Blog
    May 28, 2015 at 8:15 pm (1 year ago)

    I totally agree I have no idea where I want be without my mummy friends they keep me sane! πŸ™‚
    Laura’s Lovely Blog recently posted…Turning 35My Profile

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:47 pm (1 year ago)

      Me too πŸ™‚

  22. Jane
    May 27, 2015 at 2:51 pm (1 year ago)

    Hi, saw your link over on twinkly Tuesday. The support you get from Mummy friends is invaluable and Mummy nights out are definitely a great way of getting out with people who understand the 7 am wake up call the next day. Great post!

    • Claire
      May 30, 2015 at 9:48 pm (1 year ago)

      Thanks πŸ™‚

  23. Rachel
    May 27, 2015 at 8:42 am (1 year ago)

    Love this and you most defintely need mummy friends. They are my saviours most days! #twinklytuesdays xx
    Rachel recently posted…Naptime is on its way outMy Profile

    • Claire
      May 27, 2015 at 1:45 pm (1 year ago)

      Thanks πŸ™‚

    • Claire
      May 27, 2015 at 1:45 pm (1 year ago)



Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

Comment *

CommentLuv badge